Just like the story, Emperor without clothes, many most times do not want to hear honest feedback. And many times too, it works both ways. The one at the receiving end and the one giving the opinion.
Personally, being honest constructively takes effort from both sides. I always look for ways to say it honestly in a way that the receiving end might choose to listen. So the brain starts to go through the choices of words, the facial expressions, the physical gestures. I look for a suitable time and opportunity.
But if feedback is given in a hostile, rude manner, the level of acknowledgement and acceptance tend to be much lower. It depends on individual and situation I suppose. Some has higher tolerance and can take straight talking. Some are more sensitive and tend to be emotional. Some don't care and some care too much.
And when I am at the receiving end, I have to tell myself to be open minded, to listen first (or read), digest first, breathe in deep, avoid being defensive and try to understand what the feedback means. First, to acknowledge, and then to accept, after that, to do something about it.
I could actually write a #freewrite here based on the prompt: What you need to know about me...
I reckon that when it comes to comments, they’re always taken negatively, unless you’re sucking up to someone – in other words, always agreeing with them – and that’s not how it works. The same goes for giving votes: a vote automatically means you approve of it, so there’s no need to change anything. And that’s where the biggest problem lies. Then, of course, you also have to deal with people who have such an incredibly big ego – just look at the usernames some of them use – that the penny will never drop, no matter how politely or carefully you put it, and under any circumstances; you might think you’re being quite blunt, but to them it means absolutely nothing. Getting the message across is quite difficult in itself, especially when it has to be done online, but on the other hand, I don’t believe the average person using the platform is that blind. If there’s something to be gained – whether it’s a scam or whatever – people are quick to jump on it.
Great comment!
This BOOMING vote is yours and well deserved!
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